Want To Be Married Again

A male friend of mine said this today and I had to share it here. I feel that what he said hits the nail on the head for what I want. I think it shows that not every divorcee is anti marriage. A lot of us are looking for it again and miss many parts of it.


"I want to be married again, to someone I can spend forever with and build a family.

Not to make me happy but to enhance my happiness!

Not because I'm lonely but because I desire to be intimately significant to a woman.

besides God said: "it is not good that a man should be alone I will make for him an help mate"

That tells me that my God has a woman out there who will meet my specific needs, one who wont be perfect but she will be dynamically perfect for me..."

Yes! YES! YES!!!

I am the biggest advocate for searching for a helpmate. I have faith that God will bring him and all of us on this blog our future spouse / helpmate!

Dates: The Over Touchy Guy

Dude! Why are you so touchy! You don't even know me! Ok... I did not say that but I sure have thought it on several dates! I am not a touchy person. Like in a relationship or to family and friends yes. Well to family and friends it is still limited. So when I am getting to know a guy and he is very touchy I do not like it.

I look at my body as a special place. Not every one, hell not many people at all get to touch it much less "enjoy" it. I do not even dance with guys I do not know when I'm out at a club or lounge. Yes... it is that serious.

Recently I went on a few dates with an over toucher. It was strange because I did not verbally say your little touches are annoying, but I made it obviously it was not normal. He would touch me or try to hold my hand and I would stop talking and look at the point of contact. Do not call me a B! I'm not touchy!!!!!! After several of these incidents he did not stop. One time holding my hand for several minutes on a second and third date. Finally I had the conversation with him. I told him I am not touchy and he is not receptive to clues at all. I am more of the hug hi and bye type, until I 'know' the person better.

I'm thinking age does matter..

So I have had the wonderful joy of meeting and going out on some dates with several young men over the past couple of weeks. Age ranges of 26-38..I know very large range. I have been blessed with good genes and I unfortunately am frequently approached by 20 something's who think I am in their age range. If we have a good vibe I am sometimes inclined to go out with them just depending. However after I have been out with several 20 something's I am officially over that age group. I mean my ex was 4 years younger than me. I just don't think that any man under 30 is ready for a serious relationship of any kind. I mean we may have a hit or miss here and there but the majority..not in any way. I say this because I recently had the pleasure of going out with a man who was in his upper 30's. Our conversation, our interaction was soo different compared to that of a 20 something. Now please note these young men I am entertaining are all professional young adults so I do have a bit of an expectation of certain behaviours and conversations to be held. I just feel that a mid to late 20's and even some of your early 30's men are trying to really play the field and enjoying life as a single successful man. They feel like they don't have to work too hard because they know there is another woman waiting for them, which poses the question why are we waiting for these men. We know that unless you catch him at that "time" there is no chance and needless to say we allow them to keep playing. I'm sure we would love to know what you think?? Does age matter??