Online Dating

A huge part of being single and wanting to get married again is meeting men. One way is through online dating. Over my single tenure I have used it a few times. I used a free dating sites off and on in 2008 and 2009. Actually met my ex-boyfriend on one of them. When I found myself single again earlier this year I tried a free site again. I found that nothing really had changed. There is a huge pool of men but most aren't really talking about nothing. I am a huge believer in not giving my phone number out until I am sure I would want the person sending me messages to have it. I can count on two hands how many men I have actually met in person from a online dating site between 2008 and now. Yeah... you read that right....

I got tired of the free sites and wanted to try something different but was not sure what sites to try or to give up the online dating thing for good. After "T" told me about her experience using a certain paid site, I decided to try Match.com. I hoped that it would yield men who were looking for long term relationships. I have been using Match since June of this year. I will admit I am not consistent on logging in and looking at profiles. The caliber of men is different. There is a larger percentage actually looking for long term relationships. I love how the profiles allow people to list if they have kids, how many, and if they want more. Main thing I look for after checking height and body size. It also allows the user to list if they have degrees and which ones. These are features that some free sites do not have. 

 

I think Match is just "ok". The thing I like the most about is is the Stir Events. The site host local events and invite members based on certain qualifications. Some events are based on age, and common interest. I attended two of these events so far. They are fun and add a spin to the online dating. Other than these events and more detailed profiles, I am not a big fan of Match. I will not renew my membership when it ends in December. I feel trying it for 6 months is enough.

I have met a few guys in person off of there. No true "matches" though. I have given about a dozen my phone number. I notice that men think that texting is cool. FYI it is not. I expect phone calls when we are trying to get to know each other. I often ignore text from guys who are trying to get to know me. They can call if they want to communicate with me. Out of the men I did have phone conversations with... half of them did not ask me on a date. (This is the trend with men in general though, not just from online dating. I think a lot of guys have forgot how to court.) I have been on some dates with a few men from Match but nothing developed. 

Oh the joys of dating!

~ A

Introducing the "R" in ART!!!

What's up world, it's your girl Ronnise but many call me "Ro." I currently live in Baton Rouge with my 2.5 yr old son and my dog Jazzy. And yes, I am 30 and dating and completely OVER IT!!! I have been married before and have always been in a serious relationship since I was 16 years old, so this new age world of dating is pretty scary. I'm not sure if it is the same everywhere else but the dating scene in Baton Rouge is DEAD!!!!! When I say "dead," I mean 6 feet under dead. I will go into more detail later but I'm hoping things turnaround for the better. I am excited to share my dating experiences and hopefully I won't be here too long and find true love soon. See ya!!!

Hey Folks it's T!

Hey there world!! I'm T, and I am a date a holic who HATES IT! I have been single for almost 2 years and it's official this dating life.. yeah I'm so not about it. I mean I am having a little bit of fun but some of these dates and conversations I have OMG! are way to reckless for me.. I too have been married before, made it two years and long story short we got married for the wrong reasons and I do believe his age played a part in it. (He was 4 yrs my junior) Overall I wish him the best of luck. However now I know what I want and what I expect. I am looking for that Notebook Luv, one with my best friend. I hope you enjoy as I share some of my experiences with you and if you have questions just drop a comment.. Ciao for now! T

Introduction of A

Hello, my name is "A". I am a 30 year old single woman who lives in Atlanta. I am a mom, dog owner, divorcee, and tired of dating. Let me rephrase that... I am tired of looking for Mr Right! But this is suppose to be an introduction so let me get back on topic.

I am looking for love... again. I got married in the fall of 2007 and separated in the summer of 2008. I know what you're thinking... nope, it did not take me long to realize it was not the right fit for me! By right fit I mean my ex not marriage. I look forward to being married again. Since ending my marriage I have had two long term relationships. One lasting a year and the other lasting 2 years. I have been single for... (looks at calendar) about 9 months. Geez it feels like a lot longer than that.

I am trying to "just date and have fun" like people keep telling me to do, but I am a serial monogamous. I am fine with casual date until I begin liking a man, then I want us to focus on seeing where our connection can go. I do not easily like a guy, so if I say I like one throw some confetti. I believe in learning from my experiences and mistakes, especially in relationships. I am realist and far from a hopeless romantic.

I am excited about sharing my journey to love and marriage (speaking it into existence) with you!

~ A