Online Dating

A huge part of being single and wanting to get married again is meeting men. One way is through online dating. Over my single tenure I have used it a few times. I used a free dating sites off and on in 2008 and 2009. Actually met my ex-boyfriend on one of them. When I found myself single again earlier this year I tried a free site again. I found that nothing really had changed. There is a huge pool of men but most aren't really talking about nothing. I am a huge believer in not giving my phone number out until I am sure I would want the person sending me messages to have it. I can count on two hands how many men I have actually met in person from a online dating site between 2008 and now. Yeah... you read that right....

I got tired of the free sites and wanted to try something different but was not sure what sites to try or to give up the online dating thing for good. After "T" told me about her experience using a certain paid site, I decided to try Match.com. I hoped that it would yield men who were looking for long term relationships. I have been using Match since June of this year. I will admit I am not consistent on logging in and looking at profiles. The caliber of men is different. There is a larger percentage actually looking for long term relationships. I love how the profiles allow people to list if they have kids, how many, and if they want more. Main thing I look for after checking height and body size. It also allows the user to list if they have degrees and which ones. These are features that some free sites do not have. 

 

I think Match is just "ok". The thing I like the most about is is the Stir Events. The site host local events and invite members based on certain qualifications. Some events are based on age, and common interest. I attended two of these events so far. They are fun and add a spin to the online dating. Other than these events and more detailed profiles, I am not a big fan of Match. I will not renew my membership when it ends in December. I feel trying it for 6 months is enough.

I have met a few guys in person off of there. No true "matches" though. I have given about a dozen my phone number. I notice that men think that texting is cool. FYI it is not. I expect phone calls when we are trying to get to know each other. I often ignore text from guys who are trying to get to know me. They can call if they want to communicate with me. Out of the men I did have phone conversations with... half of them did not ask me on a date. (This is the trend with men in general though, not just from online dating. I think a lot of guys have forgot how to court.) I have been on some dates with a few men from Match but nothing developed. 

Oh the joys of dating!

~ A