I find myself saying this a lot. I meet a guy... he seems normal... and within a week he is acting like he knows me. It takes me a while, especially compared to their speed, to like someone. Much less like to the level these fools act like they like me.
Seriously, what can you really know about me in a week. Hell... two weeks?!?!
Two scenarios typically happen when "I'm just not as into them as they are into me". The first one I like to call the Puppy Dog syndrome. If you have ever had a puppy, you know that a puppy sees every person as a playmate. As soon as they see you they think it is time to play and get super excited. This is what happens in the first scenario. The guy meets me or has date with me and they become a puppy dog with excitement. I do not know what it is. I have been told multiple times it is a combination of personality with brains and good looks, but I do not believe this because I'm sure many woman have both. Anyway in this scenario the guy acts like he has never met a woman before. Just super excited. Contacting me all the time. Expecting me to make them a priority. Making future plans without really asking me what I want. Much less if I even like them. All of this happens within a week to two weeks of meeting me. Yes 1 to 14 days. Crazy to me because I do not believe you know who I am.
The next scenario is similar to puppy dog. The guy does similar stuff in the same spane of time but instead of acting like a puppy dog, they act like they are in love and have known me months. "I want us to get married!" "You are my queen!" "You are the bright light of my life!" Um... sir... what's my last name? What's my momma name? What's my favorite color? What is my most embarrassing moment.
I know some of you are thinking "Aww these guys are so sweet!" Naw! The ability to fall in love, well really it is infatuation or lust, with someone that fast is a concern. Trust me, I am not giving them much time or attention so there is not reason for it. This is a sign that something is wrong with them or they are looking for love SO bad they are jumping on anything that appears somewhat normal. I'll pass on that.
Most recently, an older guy I met did this. Within 2 days of knowing me he's asking me if I would let him be my boyfriend. Uh... right now? Hell no! I take that title seriously because for me it is a step away from being my future husband. He told me how his goals were for us to become boyfriend and girlfriend. And how he could see himself marrying me. This is all after a 20 minute conversation when he met me and a hour coffee date. Concerned! I politely brushed off a lot of the things he did or said and told him to give us both some time to get know each other. 6 days after meeting me we had a "real" date. He acted like a little school boy on his first date. Nervous and strange. Acting like anything I would request of him would get done. I am all for chivalry, but I like a man with a backbone! And he showed me in conversations, stories he told, and his behavior when around me he did not have one. A few days later I stopped answering his phone calls and text when he did not calm down his behavior or take my hints to. I am sure he's a great guy for someone else. But his creepy behavior, in addition to not wanting kids and not being my physical type, caused me to remove him from the little tiny piece of my life I allowed him in.
I am dating to find my husband. Not a push over, part time lover, someone to occupy my time while waiting on my future husband, or anything other than the right guy. My standards and expectations are high because I know what I give to my mate and what I deserve.
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