A question I have wondered and been asked so many times I can not count is "When should two people dating become exclusive?" I believe the answer is when they are ready. I do not feel a time limit should dictate this. But what do you do when one of them is ready while the other is not?
I found myself here recently. Wondering why am I still 'dating' a certain guy. At this point we know each other pretty well, enjoy being around each other, and have fun. We've discussed it here and there, but in my opinion it has not happened. I expressed my feelings about this (I believe communication is very important). I also explained I will date and have fun as much as I want if I am not in an exclusive relationship. Now I am at the point where i'm wondering... Like Jay Z said "What the hell are you waiting for?"
So now I am at the crossroad of Do I Walk Away Avenue and Just Have Fun With Him Drive. As much as I enjoy spending time with him, but I like him (yes I said it... go ahead throw your confetti). That's what makes figuring out to do so hard... that damn L word. (No not THAT L word!) At some point I expect the fun to end because I am not getting one of the things I want. I have to admit I am not good at the whole "Enjoy the ride" thing. I am goal oriented. "Where is this car I'm riding in going ? I don't want to go that way so let me out!"
Trying to decide what I want to do is just as annoying as the situation at this point. I think I will start with reducing my availability and communication with him for starters. I have plenty of things to keep me busy so that won't be hard. I guess after that I will make the decision to give up on him... I mean cut ties completely.
Ahhhh the joys... or not so joyous... of dating!
~ A
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